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Here are some excerpts from an interview with Osho, about the difference between “normal” sex and tantric sex. Continue reading “Tantric Sex or Normal Sex: What’s The Difference?”

We’ve notice that the word ‘tantra’ might confusing many new comers: what does it means? what can be expected during tantric massage? If you have similar question , no worries. Today, I’m glad to invited Chris, a tantric goddess, have practiced in word of tantra for last 10 years, the founder of Velvet Massage to share her insight of tantric massage…

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London, a city renowned for its grandeur and opulence, offers an array of luxury experiences to cater to executive travelers with discerning tastes. Whether visiting for pleasure or business, embracing high-end personal services in this vibrant metropolis is the key to unlocking an unforgettable experience.

From bespoke guided tours to chauffeured rides, executive travelers can explore London’s iconic landmarks and hidden gems with a personal touch. These exclusive services ensure that every moment is crafted to perfection, making the most of valuable time in the city. Continue reading “Indulge in Luxury: Discover the Best Personal Services in London”

As you reflect on your life in your later years, what do you hope to see? An accumulation of material possessions or a wealth of unforgettable experiences that have given meaning to your life? There’s no doubt that experiences can shape our lives and create lasting memories. It’s these memories that can make life truly worthwhile. And one of the best ways to add to your experiences and make life more enjoyable is through a full body massage. Continue reading “Can Money buy happiness? Unleashing Life’s Rhapsody with Full Body Massage”

I recently received a massage as a client at Orchid massage at Hilton near Heathrow, I myself is also in this business, but I don’t think they know who I am and just treated me like every client. I was impressed, and decided to write “a peer review” about the service.

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If you’re looking for the ultimate sensual indulgence, look no further than ORCHID Massage London. Their tantric massage experience is like nothing else, transporting you to a world of pure pleasure and ecstasy. Continue reading “The experience with Orchid Massage – a peer review”

 

The most common associations with the word tantra massage are either funky sex positions and endless love-making or funny exercises with breathwork, eye gazing and super-slow touch.

Many tantra teachers remember to mention that tantra is only about 5-10% sex and sexuality. But the focus tends to be on sexuality. Why? Maybe because it’s interesting to many and it sells.

According to Christopher Wallis, a Sanskrit scholar and a yogi, there are no references to sex or sexuality in traditional tantra – except for the Maithuna ritual, which is like a strictly orchestrated religious ceremony.

Some teachers say that there are sexual practices described in Kashmiri Shaivism teachings, but I have not yet gotten the chance to learn these. It is probable that they are kept secret like many esoteric teachings are, and only revealed to the initiated.

But can we find a link between traditional tantra and more body-sensual-sexual oriented neo-tantra?

The goal of tantra massage

The ultimate goal of tantra massage is to become aware of one’s own true nature, the True Self. All traditional tantric techniques help us to walk towards this goal. By practicing yoga asanas we can identify and let go of unnecessary tension and by reciting mantras we can purify the mind. We let go of whatever is not necessary.

In my recent article about tantric yoga I wrote about letting go:

Asana is about letting go. It’s about learning to relax,
learning to identify the tension in our bodies,
and choosing to let go of all that is not necessary – consciously.

If while doing these practices we believe we are somehow flawed or incomplete, this can actually hinder the natural expression of our true nature. That’s why traditional tantric yoga teaches that we are already Masters. Everything is here already.

The sensual exercises of neo-tantra

Only sensual or something deeper too?

If you have ever attended a contemporary tantra massage workshop, sometimes called neo-tantra, you are probably familiar with eye-gazing, circulating energy and conscious touch exercises. These may be nice and even liberating, but is there really a point there? What can you get from these exercises?

For many, sexuality is an area of life where there’s a lot of tension: guilt, shame, abuse… Any exercise that is touching this area is likely to bring up some issues in the form of emotions or memories.

Normally the tantra workshops do not involve sex as such. There are many exercises that revolve around our ability and skill to relate to others, both in a physical and a non-physical way.

If we can do exercises that touch us deeply in a safe and supportive environment, we can fully feel the emotions they trigger and then choose to let go. It’s like reprogramming the brain: this event caused contraction when it happened, but now I’m different and the situation is different, so I don’t have to react in the same way.

Letting go does not necessarily happen all at once. Some issues can be very deep-rooted and our psyche has protected us by hiding them from our conscious awareness. Many of the emotions do not last for a very long time if we allow ourselves to feel them fully and do not cling to them with our mind. Try this next time you feel jealous or angry: really feel it, dive into it, allow it to be there fully. And don’t get caught in the stories in your head.

An example of a simple exercise that can trigger various responses: you’re facing your practice partner some meters away. One of you is standing steady, and another is approaching. The one standing gives hand signals about when to take a step or when to stop, or even to back off a bit. How does it feel when the other person is approaching you? How does it feel when you are told to stop? What happens if you do not get to meet your partner? Do you feel abandoned, rejected?

Almost any exercise can bring up things when done consciously and mindfully, given enough time. Someone can remind us of our ex-partner, or our parents. Or an exercise can remind of us of some past event that we had long forgotten.

The importance of sharing

In many tantra workshops that I have attended, there’s a sharing – either with your practice partner or with everyone in the group. You simply share your experience out loud.

I always advise sharing from the place of I. What did I experience? How did this feel to me? And if people drift to stories, I gently ask them to come back to their own experience or bodily feeling.

It may feel awkward to become visible, to take space and to share publicly like that, but it is really good for the purpose of letting go. Once you can share what you have felt and experienced, often the issue will start to lose its grip on your being – especially if you can connect with the feeling behind it.

If the facilitator is skillful and attentive, they can help you get to the core of the issue with simple coaching questions or by helping you to become more aware of what’s going on in your body. It’s nothing to be afraid of, but trust here is essential. The workshop space should be safe and confidential.

Intention and consecration

Setting an intention is equally important. Why do you want to do what you do? Setting an intention is like programming your unconscious mind to see things from a different perspective. If your intention is enjoying sensuous touch, that’s great. Just become aware of the why. And it’s a great intention to let go of all that’s no longer serving you!

I like to do a consecration before any event or session I organize. Simply put, in the consecration I offer the fruits and merits of the oncoming actions to the higher good. It’s the same when I do healing. There’s no way I can know what the other person needs, so I give up even trying to figure that out, and I offer the healing session to the Absolute. Then whatever happens is good – of course given I keep my ego and agenda out of the way.

In this way, I think that neo-tantra can serve a greater purpose than just pleasure. It can help us to become whole and to realize more of our true nature. It’s an interesting and fun way to explore your Self, and it’s definitely an easy step to take – compared to a full-on dedicated spiritual practice.

I think that this kind of practice can take you further on the path, but you may find that to realize the Absolute something more is needed. I don’t know for sure yet!

About the Author, featured erotica masseuse Anna at Eros Massage.

Why do I do Asian massage only for Men? And why should you go to receive it from a woman rather than from a man? It may seem like quite a challenge to come to a woman who will touch you intimately. Some Men think that all women offering Asian massage have their own agenda and only a man will be genuinely caring. Others think that women can’t understand female sexuality and only a man will be able to relate to you. Others look for sexual healing and decide that a man is a safer option, if only a stage.

It is true that you can find many offers of “personal” Asian massage or simply ingenuine ones. By all means you should take care to make sure that the practitioner appears professional. However, although the majority of women unfortunately are indeed ingorant in this respect, not all women are, especially those genuine practitioners who have dedicated themselves to working with female sexuality. Men are not necessarily well informed either – in many instances there is a lot left to find out for an average man about her own sexuality.

I am constantly surprised by heterosexual female practitioners offering Asian massage to heterosexual Men. To me it appears to be a deep misunderstanding of sexuality bodyworks. There are many ways sexuality can be addressed – psychology, erotica workshops, counceling, educative media – where, indeed, a man helping a man makes sense in a “me too” way. An Asian erotic massage (which we offer at our massage parlour in London) , however, is not a lecture or a councelling session, it is direct experience through the body and out of the mind. It is not just about understanding and relating, it is about being able to give a client an actual experience of sexual energy expansion and guide it.

Both the giver and the receiver of an Asian massage are subject to universal sexual energy laws. Sexual energy will only flow along its natural sexual orientation lines, which leaves only 3 possible combinations: between gay women, between gay Men and between straight woman and man.

Erotic Massage wouldn’t work for you with a man

… you will not feel any real expansion of sexual energy when you are stimulated by a man. Your body is not a machine, it’s not just about touching mechanically in certain places. There has to be a natural flux and magnetism of male and female energies if you are heterosexual. You have to be receptive to loving male hands. Yes, it may be exactly the same massage but just the fact that it is a woman touching you will make your energy respond in a completely different, natural and powerful way, than if you are touched by a man.

In fact, getting an Asian massage from a man may turn out to be a disturbing experience. You may think that going to a woman for this kind of massage is unnatural and uncomfortable – but going to a man is even more unnatural for you. You may end up laying there wondering whether you should enjoy being touched sexually by a man or you shouldn’t, unless this is exactly what you want to explore. Not only it will cancel out any benefits of Asian tantric massage, it may also leave you in a state of confusion. This is not a man-to-man counselling, this is sexual energy journey. Feeling more relaxed with a man has nothing at all to do with sexual expansion or healing – what you need is your ability to be relaxed with a woman and being with a man is a completely unrelated experience, not even as a stage.

Needless to say, this only applies if you are straight. If you are gay you should go to a man by all means.

Asian massage also wouldn’t work for him with you

…the therapist (unless gay) is also not likely to feel much more during the massage than a mechanical going through the motions. You may be duped into believing that an Asian massage is about moving things from chakra to chakra asexually impartially and reiki-like. Or you may be told that your genitals need the equivalent of a back massage to relieve tension in the internal muscles.

A good erotic massage comes from the heart, it is physical bodywork driven by emotions of appreciation, admiration and love. Those exist naturally along sexual orientation lines but not against them. There has to be a natural magnetism between male and female energies in the heterosexual scenario. To put an aura of sexuality into the erotic Asian massage the therapist has to put a healthy portion of natural male-to-female desire into his hands, even if only in an abstract way. We are not talking about the actual desire towards you personally, but male hands will always touch a man’s body with certain sexual energy, just by definition, and the man’s body will respond differently too. A heterosexual man simply won’t have this and your sexual energy wouldn’t respond either.

All in all, there seems to be a suggestion that one can do the Asian massage with disregard for sexual orientation and treating sexual energy asexually. This seems like a normal holistic relaxation massage and a variety of other therapies, and just the fact that genitals are mechanically touched doesn’t turn it into a sensual experience.

It is understandable that Men might feel nervous about going to a woman for an erotic massage but you also want to consider whether what you want to receive is an actual Asian massage. For a heterosexual man the only option for an authentic Asian massage is going to a woman. It is just a case of choosing someone who seems trustworthy and genuine, you should indeed take good care in your choice and unfortunately genuine male practitioners are rare. Men are intuitive, if you call the therapist and have a chat you should get an idea.