Here are some excerpts from an interview with Osho, about the difference between “normal” sex and tantric sex.
“Your sex act and the tantric sex act are basically different. Your sex act is to relieve; it is just like sneezing out a good sneeze. The energy is thrown out and you are unburdened. It is destructive, it is not creative. It is good — therapeutic. It helps you to be relaxed, but nothing more. The tantric sex act is basically, diametrically opposite and different. It is not to relieve, it is not to throw energy out. It is to remain in the act without ejaculation, without throwing energy out; to remain in the act merged — just at the beginning part of the act, not the end part.”
Notice how a lot of people just roll over and fall asleep after lovemaking? Tantric sex has an opposite effect. Energy actually rises after sex. For one thing, a lot of tantric practitioners stress the importance of cultivating sexual energy for days, weeks and months, while some believe orgasm should be avoided at all costs.
To me, the difference between “normal” sex and tantric sex can be illustrated as eating a burger at a fast food joint where the meat is frozen and microwaved, as opposed to eating at a classy restaurant, where the meat is fresh. One will keep you going for a couple of hours, the latter will provide you with energy and nutrients that will sustain you for days…
“One tantric sex experience, and even for days you will feel relaxed — at ease, at home, non-violent, non-angry, non-depressed. And this type of person is never a danger to others. If he can, he will help others to be happy. If he cannot, at least he will not make anyone unhappy. Only tantra can create a new man, and this man who can know timelessness, egolessness and deep non-duality with existence will grow.”